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For One Day, No Demonizing

Tuesday, November 21st, 2017

I am publishing this post just before Thanksgiving Day, a day that can present a potent mix of joy and aggravation.  Although these ideas are especially applicable on that day, they are worth considering for a day featuring a family event or any day at all.     In my work to prevent and resolve […]

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Attorneys For Family-Held Enterprises (AFHE) presentation

Sunday, November 19th, 2017

I enjoyed the opportunity to present to the international Attorneys for Family-Held Enterprises (AFHE) Mid-Year Conference in Cleveland, OH on November 10, 2017. Richard Lutringer and I talked about “Using Mediation Within the Family Enterprise to Bring Positive Change From Internal Conflict”. It was a great chance to discuss (because interactive presentations are my favorite […]

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CTMA panel on mediation research

Monday, November 6th, 2017

It was a pleasure on November 2, 2017 to join fellow mediators and friends Peter Benner and Bill Logue at Quinnipiac Law’s Center for Dispute Resolution. Peter, Bill, and I were panelists at a Connecticut Mediation Association (CTMA) event, discussing a recent American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution Task Force report. The report didn’t […]

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Quoted in NY Times Wealth Matters column on using mediation

Thursday, August 24th, 2017

Paul Sullivan wrote a great piece on the benefits of using mediation, especially Transformative Mediation, to help wealthy families and family enterprises. Published on August 19, 2017, and aptly titled “Squabbling Over the Family Vacation Home? Don’t Hire a Lawyer Just Yet“, the article sets out the value of mediation for extended families who want […]

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Harnessing the Power of Being Heard — now in Mandarin, with great illustrations!

Sunday, May 14th, 2017

My article, “Harnessing the Power of Being Heard”, has been translated into Mandarin, and great illustrations have been added, courtesy of my friend, Pierre duPont, of HPM Partners in New York. The article has been posted on Pierre’s WeChat account. Here’s the article in Mandarin and English: 倾听的力量 (Harnessing the Power of Being Heard) 简.拜达尔 […]

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Harnessing the Power of Being Heard

Wednesday, May 3rd, 2017

My article, “Harnessing the Power of Being Heard“, was published today in the Family Firm Institute (FFI) Practitioner. It is the first article in a series leading up to the FFI annual conference in Chicago, in October, 2017. The conference theme is “Electrifying”, which explains this introduction by Asher Noor, of the Practitioner Editorial Committee:  […]

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How my work with ostriches helps families and their businesses handle conflict

Thursday, April 6th, 2017

It can be tempting for all of us to choose not to handle conflict. That’s part of why I work with ostriches: the human equivalent of the birds who (mythically) react to problems by burying their heads in the sand. It’s not a good option for birds (asphyxiation) or humans (problems get worse as you […]

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Do it while you still can — adventures and conversations

Monday, February 13th, 2017

I recently heard the ongoing conversations of a couple of healthy 70-something guys planning adventures to enjoy while they still can. (The occasion, sadly, was the funeral of a dear friend.) Hearing them continuing to add items to their bucket lists (while happily checking off others) reminded me of the value of having important family […]

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Exit Planning Exchange (XPX) Case Study

Friday, September 30th, 2016

The Connecticut Chapter of the Exit Planning Exchange (XPX) has started this year’s case study, involving a business whose partners are planning ahead for an eventual exit (bravo for advance planning!) The case study involves a business started nearly 20 years ago by three partners who were best buddies in college. Although theirs is not […]

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Family vacation homes — joys and challenges

Wednesday, August 31st, 2016

As we close in on the last big holiday weekend, I am thinking about family vacation homes. Family vacation homes are the source of both joys and challenges. In the movies, it’s all about the joy of the family being together, in a treasured location. In reality, the challenges of maintaining, sharing, and planning for […]

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