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April 2 is Reconciliation Day!


Patience. Persistence. Optimism.

Patience. Persistence. Optimism.   Commentators in the field of mediation – both academics and practitioners – often cite these as the top three qualities a mediator needs to be successful.   So, how to get them? It’s both nature and nurture.   Nature: we choose this path because it is a good fit for us […]


Year’s End Resolutions – And Conflict Prevention

We tend to think of New Year’s Resolutions as forward-looking: commitments to change a habit or trait for the better.   How about Year’s End Resolutions? What has been sitting, oh-so-patiently, on the corner of your real or figurative desk, that needs to be finished up?   Perhaps the estate planning documents that you can’t […]


For One Day, No Demonizing

I am publishing this post just before Thanksgiving Day, a day that can present a potent mix of joy and aggravation.  Although these ideas are especially applicable on that day, they are worth considering for a day featuring a family event or any day at all.     In my work to prevent and resolve […]


CTMA panel on mediation research

It was a pleasure on November 2, 2017 to join fellow mediators and friends Peter Benner and Bill Logue at Quinnipiac Law’s Center for Dispute Resolution. Peter, Bill, and I were panelists at a Connecticut Mediation Association (CTMA) event, discussing a recent American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution Task Force report. The report didn’t […]


Quoted in NY Times Wealth Matters column on using mediation

Paul Sullivan wrote a great piece on the benefits of using mediation, especially Transformative Mediation, to help wealthy families and family enterprises. Published on August 19, 2017, and aptly titled “Squabbling Over the Family Vacation Home? Don’t Hire a Lawyer Just Yet“, the article sets out the value of mediation for extended families who want […]


How my work with ostriches helps families and their businesses handle conflict

It can be tempting for all of us to choose not to handle conflict. That’s part of why I work with ostriches: the human equivalent of the birds who (mythically) react to problems by burying their heads in the sand. It’s not a good option for birds (asphyxiation) or humans (problems get worse as you […]


“Why every attorney should consider ADR” — my article published in the Conn. Law Tribune

On February 26, 2014, the Connecticut Law Tribune published my article, “Why every attorney should consider ADR.”  As I hope the title suggests, Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) is an option that every attorney should consider — not just those in specific practice areas where mediation and arbitration have been common for some time. Sometimes, clients […]


NE-ACR Fall Program Featured Thought-Provoking Panel

Although they say that a picture is worth a thousand words, this photograph of the panel who spoke at the NE-ACR fall program does not begin to do justice to the rich and complex topics they covered. “Conflict, Consensus and Leadership in the Political Debate” could have gone in many directions — some of them […]